What Is Domestic Abuse?

Domestic abuse is a crime.

By general definition, it is: "A couple in an intimate relationship, past or present, with an element of abuse."

Often, the popular perception - both public and media - of domestic abuse is that which is delivered from a man against a woman. It can, however, apply to any relationship, whether between a gay couple, lesbian couple, within a transgender relationship, or from a woman against a man. It takes no account of social background, sex, race or religion.

There are four main elements of cruelty: physical, psychological, sexual and financial. Victims can be subject to any or all of these.

Are you justifying your partner's actions to your friends and family? Are you in denial, lying to yourself and others about your situation? Are you not telling anyone about your situation? Do you feel isolated? Are you taking time off work and/or visiting the doctor more?

Sadly, there are many symptoms to this sort of crime. If any of this is familiar to you, and you believe you are being abused and want to change your situation, contact a professional who deals with domestic abuse.

What should you do?

There is no excuse for your partner using domestic abuse against you, so you shouldn't make any on their behalf. You have done nothing wrong. Their need to exert power over you may be for many reasons, but you are not to blame.

Above all, it is wrong.

We know you will probably be scared, that your self-confidence might be extremely low and that you could even be putting yourself in danger. But you don't deserve to be treated as a second-class citizen, living in fear.

It is our duty to protect you. By contacting the police, you can take positive action against the person harming you. You will be consulted throughout, and your wishes considered. You do not need to prosecute your partner - we will do that.

However, if this is not the course of action you wish to take, you can speak to another agency, but we will always be here if and when you are ready.